How Fashion Helped Me+Advice

My mom sent me to school with a hat to match my sweater. I planned this outfit for days. When I got to school the teachers told me I couldn't wear the hat in my photo. I responded by saying,
My mom sent me to school with a hat to match my sweater. I planned this outfit for days. When I got to school the teachers told me I couldn’t wear the hat in my photo. I responded by saying, “but the hat makes it an outfit.”
Fashion lover at an early age

I know this isn’t completely fashion related but I wanted to share something with you all. I know that life can get overwhelming at times and that all we want to do is stay in bed, but I promise you the best thing to do is stay in bed for a bit and then get out and go into the world. Maybe you have anxiety or depression, or maybe your day is just bad. I deal with anxiety and throughout the years I’ve come up with ways to deal with it. Some things work sometimes, and some don’t, but there’s no harm in trying.

I thought I would make a list of things I do to feel better when I have a bad day. You’ll be surprised to know that I use fashion to cope sometimes. When I was younger I hated going outside, mostly because I started to realize that I was different because of my wheelchair. A lot of times people would stare and ask my mom rude questions. It was awful, but I took solace in playing dress-up in my mother’s closet. I loved her handbags and her clothes. I would spend hours in her closet. I think that’s when I started to love fashion.

I was five during that time, and when I was ten I thought of an idea that would forever change my outlook on myself. If people were staring and asking rude questions, I would give them a reason to stare. I would use my love of fashion in my favor. I would  dress up the way I dressed up in my mothers closet. It felt empowering and I conquered a small part of my anxiety. That’s just one way, but I have a few others:

  1. Write it down. After a bad breakup that sent my already present anxiety through the roof I started a blog, I already had a fashion blog, but I needed an outlet for my feelings. That’s how S.A. the Writer was born almost three years ago.
  2. There’s nothing wrong with getting professional help, actually it’s great. Sometimes you need an unbiased ear.
  3. Listen to music! It helps me out a lot when I’m feeling down. My go to artists are Selena Quintanilla, Fiona Apple, and Kid Cudi.
  4. Go outside. Fresh air is amazing.
  5. Treat yourself. You want a new sweater? Get it. You want a new box of tea? Get it. Don’t punish yourself, love yourself. Your anxiety or sadness isn’t a bad thing about you, it adds to your story.
  6. Take photos, of everything. There’s nothing like keeping memories on photo paper.
  7. Hear someone else’s story. Trust me, you’re never alone.
  8. Sleep is your friend. Rest your body and your soul.
  9. Hangout with people who love you.
  10. But don’t be afraid to let go of the people who don’t.

I hope this helps someone. I know it’s not really a fashion post, but I thought it would be nice to share.

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